30 things I learned in 30 years

So I turned the grand old age of 30 yesterday. I never really thought too much about how I would feel when I got to my thirties – apart from sheer terror when I was in my teens and mild amusement in my twenties. I definitely thought I would feel a hell of a lot more grown up then I feel. Though I am getting there. One of the things I’ve learned is that everyone else feels the same. No one feels like a grown up. So I’m just going to go with it.

I’m happily married to a lovely man, I just started a great job, I have a house, nice car and cats, as well as family and close friends. I consider myself lucky. I consider myself happy and I consider myself content. For the first time I feel content.

So as well as having a lovely time in my real life, I figured I needed to mark this occasion on my blog in true blogger style.

So here’s 30 things I learned in 30 years. It’s a mix of funny and serious but it’s all true. Enjoy.

  1. Everyone is stumbling along in their own way – no one completely has their shit together.
  2. Don’t cut your own fringe…especially when you’re sad.
  3. I like things better when they are planned. That’s just me.
  4. You do you – everyone is focusing on what they’re doing too much to care about what you do.
  5. Just buy the expensive wok so you don’t have to keep buying cheap ones when they immediately get scratched.
  6. Never follow a man in a kilt – running joke between Topher and I when we were on our way to a Disney Halloween party and we got on the wrong monorail because we assumed the man in a kilt in front of us was dressed up for Halloween. He wasn’t.
  7. You don’t need to be 10 stone to be happy. Find your own happy weight and screw statistics.
  8.  Heels are not for me no matter how many pairs of “training heels I buy”.
  9. Don’t move to a new town without visiting it more than once.
  10. Listen to your parents more – you don’t know shit.
  11. 2 and a half hour commutes are bad for your health.
  12. You should really remove your makeup after a night out. I’m talking to you nineteen year old me.
  13. Double check bus times on the way to the airport.
  14. Don’t take a bus to the airport. Especially in a foreign country. Especially when you’re running late. Let me tell you about the time Topher and I missed a flight home…
  15. Pets make a home feel like home
  16. Google knows all. All my adult stuff I know is because of Google.
  17. Car tyres are expensive. Especially when you keep managing to drive over nails.
  18. Brown tape fixes a lot of things around the home.
  19. Accept help when it’s offered. Things will be so much easier if you do.
  20. You can’t fit an IKEA flat pack king size bed inside a Renault Clio – Optimism can only take you so far.
  21. Don’t go outside in Edinburgh in November only wearing a toga.
  22. Vegetables are actually pretty tasty when you cook them right
  23. You’re never too old to love Disney
  24. It’s so satisfying to have your own tool kit and be able to fix things yourself – with the odd Facetime call to your dad here and there.
  25. I can drive abroad. I can drive a 4×4. I can drive a mini bus and I can even drive the biggest van you can drive on a regular licence.
  26. Not everyone is going to like what you like. And that’s kind of the point isn’t it?
  27. The people who stick around through the good and bad are the best kind of people.
  28. If you have a polystyrene fight with a person with curly hair, you will win.
  29. Never do the food shop when you’re hungry.
  30. When I’m handed a kitten, I can’t say no to taking it home. – I actually was going to get 2 of Pickles’ siblings but the woman had already given them away when I arrived. He was the last one left and I was determined to have two kittens. But as soon as he was handed to me I took him home vowing to find him a friend from another litter.

Cheers to being 30!

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Five Interview Tips for Job Hunters

*Post in collaboration with TMI Recruiting

So summer is here and you might be looking for a sparkly new job. Or you might be a soon to be graduate hunting down your first full time role. Either way, TMI Resourcing are currently doing a campaign on interview techniques so today I’m going to give you some top tips to make sure that you can ace any interview that comes your way. Because everyone deserves an amazing job!

As I said in my last post, I recently bagged myself a new job so here’s how I did it.

 

Do your research

There’s nothing worse then showing up unprepared to an interview. At the very least you need to know what the role entails and what the company does. I personally like to check out the company history, what they’re all about and what they’re up to now. Then I focus on the job role itself. It’s quite useful to go through each aspect of it and think of examples you would use to show that you have the relevant skills. Interviewers love examples. Always show evidence of how awesome you are.

Also it’s a good thing to prepare answers to competency-based questions. These can be like showing examples of when you had to deal with a difficult customer or what you think makes a good team member. Use the Internet to find lists of these types of questions and practice answering them.

 

Think of questions to ask beforehand

Nine times out of ten, near the end of an interview, the interviewer will ask you if you have any questions for them. Don’t be that person who stares blankly back at them – be prepared. Ask questions that show you’re interested in the role and the business. These can vary from questions about the business culture to what a typical day is like for the department. If you’re not sure what to ask, the Internet is a great resource for finding these types of questions. And definitely don’t have your first questions be about benefits and salary, let them bring it up if you’re going to talk about it.

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Look the part

Gone are the days where you had to wear a suit – now it all depends on the business that you’re interviewing for when deciding what to wear. However don’t forget that no matter who the interview is for, erring on the side of caution and dressing too smart is better then dressing too casual. I always take interview outfits on a case by case basis. It all depends on the kind of company and industry you’re hoping to join. Dress the part.

 

Be passionate

Interviewers want to see passion. Sometimes you may not tick all the boxes of the ideal candidate but your passion can see you through. My job I just got was in an industry I hadn’t worked in before but because I had transferable skills and a heap of passion, I got the job. Show them how much of an asset you would be to the role and the company and don’t forget to smile!

 

Stay calm

Interviews can be super nerve wracking but try to stay calm. If you’ve followed the first four tips then you’ve got nothing to worry about. Just be yourself and remember that the interviewers are people too. Put things in perspective – what’s the worst that can happen? You don’t get the job? That’s ok – just try again. It’s all you can do. The more interviews you do, the more confident you will be.

Good luck!

 

What’s your best interview tip?

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Yet Another New Beginning

So things have been pretty quiet around here lately. I mentioned that I was waiting in limbo for some news. Well I received the news and it was good. Things have changed considerably. I went and got myself a 9-5 job.

It has been a decision that I’ve been toiling with for months now. And ultimately though I have enjoyed being a freelancer, it’s best for my mental health to have a 9-5. A good 9-5 mind you. Not just any role in any company. I wanted to find a nice company and I’m 99% sure that I’ve found it. The job is stimulating, the people are lovely and the money is good among lots of other things.

I’m about to start my third week and I’ve felt my mental health problems melt away into the background. I’m happy to get out of bed every morning and I feel like I have a purpose again. My overeating has stopped in it’s tracks and I’m filled with hope. This will be the first time that Topher and I are in a financially stable position. We’ll actually have disposable income and be able to save. That takes a great load off my mind and we can just enjoy living.

As well as the job, Topher and I have rejoined Slimming World and the gym. I weigh the heaviest I’ve ever weighed and feel so uncomfortable moving around but now I know I’ve got control again and can get back to my happy weight. I’m tired after these two weeks but a satisfied kind of tired.

I can’t wait to get the house under control (as it’s pretty messy at the moment with both of us working!) and planning our new life. We’ve already decided to move our Japan trip forward to Easter 2019 and planning is fully under way. I can’t begin to explain how happy I feel. There will be random times of the day and I’ll find myself just smiling away for no reason. It’s awesome.

So even though freelancing wasn’t for me long term, I’m so glad I gave it a go. It was quite a ride. And I would definitely still recommend people giving freelancing a try as it could be an amazing option for you. I just realised that I wasn’t happy with having to solely rely on my creativity to put food on the table. I love being creative and I’d much rather do it without any pressure behind it. Maybe I’ll finally be able to get some scrapbooking done.

So that was my little update – I will try to do my best to get back to regular posting around here. Because this blog is going nowhere!

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Hanging out in Limbo

Have you ever found yourself hanging out in limbo, waiting for one piece of news that might change your life?

I am right now. For now I’m going to have to be mysterious and not say exactly what I’m waiting on, as I don’t want to jinx it. But for now, it’s just waiting. Limbo sucks. I don’t know what to do with myself.

I’m trying to keep busy, keep myself distracted and just hope for the best but it can get hard at times. The sunny weather is definitely helping though. After saying in my Home Decor Plans post that I wanted to get my garden under control this summer, I’m actually taking steps to achieve that.

Once I’ve finished this post I’m heading out there to get my hands dirty and pull up a load of weeds. The “flower beds” are definitely not flower beds anymore so I want to pull up everything and start from scratch. See, projects. I’m distracting myself. Plus if this news goes my way, I won’t have this much time on my hands again to work on it. So now is the time.

I might even do another car boot this weekend. Get my decluttering on. My dream is to have my airing cupboard be clear from all my car boot stuff and be able to just store the usual stuff in there, along with our smaller suitcases.

Every time my mind wanders back to this news, I just can’t stop thinking about how great it will be if it goes my way. Topher and I’s quality of life will definitely skyrocket and I’ll actually have more to talk about on here. I don’t even want to think about if it turns out to be bad news. It won’t be the end of the world but it would be such a bummer.

I really hope it’s good news. Wish me luck.

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May Goals and Bullet Journal Spread

I’m looking outside right now and it’s so sunny! Hallelujah.

For the first time since January I’m going to talk about my goals for the month (and year) ahead.

  • Get down to 12 stone anything

So I was around 12 and a half stone at the beginning of the year and I have gone in the wrong direction. Due to my down period of the last few months continuing I put on about a stone. So I’m now hovering just below 13 and a half stone. That was a major blow for me as I haven’t weighed that much since 2013. That was my heaviest weight where I felt so unhealthy and decided to join Slimming World for the first time. So I just want to get back to 12 stone anything to make a start on getting on track with my 2018 goal of getting to my happy weight of 11stone. Fingers crossed!

  • Do a car boot sale

There’s so much stuff to declutter in this house. It feels like it will never end but getting to a car boot will definitely help things. And help raise some pennies for our Japan trip next year. We’re hoping to get to a car boot this Sunday as currently my weather app says it will be sunny. I hope it works out as it’s the bank holiday weekend and footfall is usually increased!

  • Get a secure stream of income

I’m really working on that this month. My 2018 goal was to just make some fecking money so I intend on doing that. Will keep you posted.

  • Raise £100 for Japan

I really really really want to go to Japan. It’s such a dream and with what we’ve raised so far it could really be possible for Topher and I to go next summer. So I’m really getting my skates on this month so get another bundle of cash added to our pot.

  • Paint two living room walls white and polyfill holes

Now this one can only happen if I secure some income so fingers crossed. As I mentioned in my 2018 Home Decor Goals post I really want to finish the living room off. Painting the walls grey was a good idea but I think painting all of them grey wasn’t the best as it’s quite a dark room that doesn’t get much sunlight. So I’m injecting a bit of white.

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As for my bullet journal spread, things have been working for me by keeping things as simple as possible. I’m still using my Leuchtturm 1917 dotted A5 bullet journal* and have been fully in the minimalist zone. However I wanted to inject a bit of colour and creativity back into it. So welcome back washi tapes and coloured felt tips.

I noticed other people using a calendar layout in their bullet journals so I thought I would give it a go. I love how it looks. It of course took longer than my usual list style calendar but it’s a lot easier on the eye. Now I can see the weeks laid out ahead. I think I’ll be keeping this style up.

May Goals - calendar

Of course I had to include a page for my freelance hours. Since taking this photo I’ve added in boxes for each client and it looks pretty good. Much better than my old approaches of just columns where all my clients are shoved in.

And I think I’ll always keep up the weekly goals as otherwise it’s so easy to just lose track of your main goals throughout the month.

May Goals - freelance

If you want to see the main spreads in my bullet journal for the year, take a look here. 

And if you’re interested in my other bullet journal posts, they’re all here.

What are your goals for May?

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