30 things I learned in 30 years

So I turned the grand old age of 30 yesterday. I never really thought too much about how I would feel when I got to my thirties – apart from sheer terror when I was in my teens and mild amusement in my twenties. I definitely thought I would feel a hell of a lot more grown up then I feel. Though I am getting there. One of the things I’ve learned is that everyone else feels the same. No one feels like a grown up. So I’m just going to go with it.

I’m happily married to a lovely man, I just started a great job, I have a house, nice car and cats, as well as family and close friends. I consider myself lucky. I consider myself happy and I consider myself content. For the first time I feel content.

So as well as having a lovely time in my real life, I figured I needed to mark this occasion on my blog in true blogger style.

So here’s 30 things I learned in 30 years. It’s a mix of funny and serious but it’s all true. Enjoy.

  1. Everyone is stumbling along in their own way – no one completely has their shit together.
  2. Don’t cut your own fringe…especially when you’re sad.
  3. I like things better when they are planned. That’s just me.
  4. You do you – everyone is focusing on what they’re doing too much to care about what you do.
  5. Just buy the expensive wok so you don’t have to keep buying cheap ones when they immediately get scratched.
  6. Never follow a man in a kilt – running joke between Topher and I when we were on our way to a Disney Halloween party and we got on the wrong monorail because we assumed the man in a kilt in front of us was dressed up for Halloween. He wasn’t.
  7. You don’t need to be 10 stone to be happy. Find your own happy weight and screw statistics.
  8.  Heels are not for me no matter how many pairs of “training heels I buy”.
  9. Don’t move to a new town without visiting it more than once.
  10. Listen to your parents more – you don’t know shit.
  11. 2 and a half hour commutes are bad for your health.
  12. You should really remove your makeup after a night out. I’m talking to you nineteen year old me.
  13. Double check bus times on the way to the airport.
  14. Don’t take a bus to the airport. Especially in a foreign country. Especially when you’re running late. Let me tell you about the time Topher and I missed a flight home…
  15. Pets make a home feel like home
  16. Google knows all. All my adult stuff I know is because of Google.
  17. Car tyres are expensive. Especially when you keep managing to drive over nails.
  18. Brown tape fixes a lot of things around the home.
  19. Accept help when it’s offered. Things will be so much easier if you do.
  20. You can’t fit an IKEA flat pack king size bed inside a Renault Clio – Optimism can only take you so far.
  21. Don’t go outside in Edinburgh in November only wearing a toga.
  22. Vegetables are actually pretty tasty when you cook them right
  23. You’re never too old to love Disney
  24. It’s so satisfying to have your own tool kit and be able to fix things yourself – with the odd Facetime call to your dad here and there.
  25. I can drive abroad. I can drive a 4×4. I can drive a mini bus and I can even drive the biggest van you can drive on a regular licence.
  26. Not everyone is going to like what you like. And that’s kind of the point isn’t it?
  27. The people who stick around through the good and bad are the best kind of people.
  28. If you have a polystyrene fight with a person with curly hair, you will win.
  29. Never do the food shop when you’re hungry.
  30. When I’m handed a kitten, I can’t say no to taking it home. – I actually was going to get 2 of Pickles’ siblings but the woman had already given them away when I arrived. He was the last one left and I was determined to have two kittens. But as soon as he was handed to me I took him home vowing to find him a friend from another litter.

Cheers to being 30!

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If you had to make one of these lists, what would be on yours?

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The Essentials You Need To Achieve An Easy, Eclectic, On Trend Home

In my book, quirky is good and what better what to show off your slightly offbeat nature than to rock an eclectic look in your home?  You’ll be pleased to know that it’s way easier than you think to achieve this as well. Just keep reading for some advice on how.

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Do – rock a neutral base

One of the most straightforward ways to achieve an eclectic home that works is to always remember to use a natural base colour on the walls. Now, this is something that is super easy to do, doesn’t cost too much, and can make your rooms look fantastic, so why wouldn’t you?

Most folks go for a bright white, especially if they are trying to get smaller rooms to look airier. However, white is not the only neutral colour, in fact, you can achieve similar success with greys, and even off-grey-black if you are looking for something particularly dramatic. Something you can see working at https://www.architecturaldigest.com/gallery/.

Of course one of the reasons that starting with a neutral colour works so well for this decorating style is that you can choose bold wallpapers for an accent wall, or fill the room with beautiful nick-nacks and still be sure that it won’t look crowded or over the top.

Don’t – spend all your money on the decor

One of the things that you have to remember to do when creating an eclectic style in your home is to keep an eye on the big picture. Now it can be very easy to get a carried away with the decor, especially if you have a creative eye. However for your home to be a success in the long term you will need to look after the basics as well.

What this means is putting a little money aside each month for essentials such as roof repairs or boiler maintenance. The latter being something that professionals like the ones at http://ecosafe.co/boiler-services-in-southampton/ can help you with. After all, it won’t matter how gorgeous your home looks if you have to sit in a freezing room with leaks flooding in come winter time!

 

Do – thrift your heart out

Next, and perhaps the most fun part of achieving an eclectic look in your home is the joy that you can have with thrifting! After all, if your home is genuinely eclectic, you don’t need to stick to one particular style or era. This gives you the freedom to shop wherever you’d like and buy things that might not traditionally be placed in the same space.

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Thrifting for vintage and kitsch can be fun!

Of course, the best and cheapest way of doing this is thrifting items from second-hand stores. Places where you can almost always grab a kitsch bargain that will give you life! Although, you can also grab some stellar buys from online car boot apps and auctions these days as well, an activity you can get some tips on at https://www.makeuseof.com/tag/.

Just remember to curate your collections where possible and display them in the most attractive way, something you can learn more about in this post, where you will see some great shadow boxes and shelf displays.

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Top Picks #56

Here’s what I’ve had my eye on recently. It’s weird to think that I can actually afford a few of these things now. What a novelty!

Jumper, £65 – Cath Kidston*

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This jumper is so twee but I love it so much. It would go with everything. Perfect for both work and just hanging out.

Pinafore, £30 – Monki @ ASOS*

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It’s a pinafore. It’s polka dot print. How could I not want this? I’d wear it with brightly coloured t-shirts.

Headphones, £25 – Urban Outfitters*

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I desperately need some wireless headphones for the gym. These are both stylish and functional. Plus they’re in the sale – score!

Cushion, £35 – Bombay Duck

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We definitely have enough cushions right now but how cute is this one? I love things that say hello.

Necklace, £37.14 – Wanderlust + Co

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This necklace is just so pretty. Shame it’s currently sold out. Though it looks like it might get restocked at some point so fingers crossed. It is still available in silver however.

Dress, £118 – Anthropologie*

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I’m living for this dress. The detailing is perfect – I love the shape, the print, the button down front and the two-tiered skirt. Shame about the price though!

Poster, £25.08 – Posters Garage @ Etsy*

Top Picks #56 - poster

Topher and I are starting to consider what posters to buy and frame for our living room gallery wall. We’ve both agreed, Disnerds that we are, we want a Disney park map poster. This one is gorgeous – the close up detail is so pretty.

Lunch Bag, £11 – ASOS*

Top Picks #56 - lunch bag

So at the moment, I bring my lunch in a plastic bag. Classy, no? I think this would be a reasonable replacement. It doesn’t even look like a lunch bag which I love.

Top, £19.99 – New Look*

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I’m really feeling the colour yellow at the moment. How pretty is this top? It would be perfect for work.

Bag, £340 – Kate Spade*

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I was so sad to hear about the death of Kate Spade recently. I always loved her style and always aspired to own some of her pieces. So far I’ve only managed a watch and her book. I need a black bag for work. This bag is expensive. But it sure is pretty. Maybe if I went to an outlet I’d have a chance at finding something similar at a cheaper price?

What’s on your wish list this week?

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Five Interview Tips for Job Hunters

*Post in collaboration with TMI Recruiting

So summer is here and you might be looking for a sparkly new job. Or you might be a soon to be graduate hunting down your first full time role. Either way, TMI Resourcing are currently doing a campaign on interview techniques so today I’m going to give you some top tips to make sure that you can ace any interview that comes your way. Because everyone deserves an amazing job!

As I said in my last post, I recently bagged myself a new job so here’s how I did it.

 

Do your research

There’s nothing worse then showing up unprepared to an interview. At the very least you need to know what the role entails and what the company does. I personally like to check out the company history, what they’re all about and what they’re up to now. Then I focus on the job role itself. It’s quite useful to go through each aspect of it and think of examples you would use to show that you have the relevant skills. Interviewers love examples. Always show evidence of how awesome you are.

Also it’s a good thing to prepare answers to competency-based questions. These can be like showing examples of when you had to deal with a difficult customer or what you think makes a good team member. Use the Internet to find lists of these types of questions and practice answering them.

 

Think of questions to ask beforehand

Nine times out of ten, near the end of an interview, the interviewer will ask you if you have any questions for them. Don’t be that person who stares blankly back at them – be prepared. Ask questions that show you’re interested in the role and the business. These can vary from questions about the business culture to what a typical day is like for the department. If you’re not sure what to ask, the Internet is a great resource for finding these types of questions. And definitely don’t have your first questions be about benefits and salary, let them bring it up if you’re going to talk about it.

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Look the part

Gone are the days where you had to wear a suit – now it all depends on the business that you’re interviewing for when deciding what to wear. However don’t forget that no matter who the interview is for, erring on the side of caution and dressing too smart is better then dressing too casual. I always take interview outfits on a case by case basis. It all depends on the kind of company and industry you’re hoping to join. Dress the part.

 

Be passionate

Interviewers want to see passion. Sometimes you may not tick all the boxes of the ideal candidate but your passion can see you through. My job I just got was in an industry I hadn’t worked in before but because I had transferable skills and a heap of passion, I got the job. Show them how much of an asset you would be to the role and the company and don’t forget to smile!

 

Stay calm

Interviews can be super nerve wracking but try to stay calm. If you’ve followed the first four tips then you’ve got nothing to worry about. Just be yourself and remember that the interviewers are people too. Put things in perspective – what’s the worst that can happen? You don’t get the job? That’s ok – just try again. It’s all you can do. The more interviews you do, the more confident you will be.

Good luck!

 

What’s your best interview tip?

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Yet Another New Beginning

So things have been pretty quiet around here lately. I mentioned that I was waiting in limbo for some news. Well I received the news and it was good. Things have changed considerably. I went and got myself a 9-5 job.

It has been a decision that I’ve been toiling with for months now. And ultimately though I have enjoyed being a freelancer, it’s best for my mental health to have a 9-5. A good 9-5 mind you. Not just any role in any company. I wanted to find a nice company and I’m 99% sure that I’ve found it. The job is stimulating, the people are lovely and the money is good among lots of other things.

I’m about to start my third week and I’ve felt my mental health problems melt away into the background. I’m happy to get out of bed every morning and I feel like I have a purpose again. My overeating has stopped in it’s tracks and I’m filled with hope. This will be the first time that Topher and I are in a financially stable position. We’ll actually have disposable income and be able to save. That takes a great load off my mind and we can just enjoy living.

As well as the job, Topher and I have rejoined Slimming World and the gym. I weigh the heaviest I’ve ever weighed and feel so uncomfortable moving around but now I know I’ve got control again and can get back to my happy weight. I’m tired after these two weeks but a satisfied kind of tired.

I can’t wait to get the house under control (as it’s pretty messy at the moment with both of us working!) and planning our new life. We’ve already decided to move our Japan trip forward to Easter 2019 and planning is fully under way. I can’t begin to explain how happy I feel. There will be random times of the day and I’ll find myself just smiling away for no reason. It’s awesome.

So even though freelancing wasn’t for me long term, I’m so glad I gave it a go. It was quite a ride. And I would definitely still recommend people giving freelancing a try as it could be an amazing option for you. I just realised that I wasn’t happy with having to solely rely on my creativity to put food on the table. I love being creative and I’d much rather do it without any pressure behind it. Maybe I’ll finally be able to get some scrapbooking done.

So that was my little update – I will try to do my best to get back to regular posting around here. Because this blog is going nowhere!

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