So it’s been just over two months since I turned 30 and how do I feel? No different. 30 always seemed such a stand out age when I was younger. Like you’re supposed to have all your shit together by then? Apparently not. And that’s ok.
It kinda reminds me of when people ask you “how’s married life?” and all you can say is, “no different.” Of course I guess that was more of a question back when people didn’t live together before they got married. I could still even ask that to my cousins since the culture is different with them. As for me and Topher, it’s just the same only we have some extra jewellery.
Though I do like the fact that we’re married. We’re even more of a team and we share the same name. And no one else in the world has it. Though please UPS guy at work, please just let me give my first name and not have to spell out my entire double barrelled surname for you? Wouldn’t have it any other way though.
Anyway, back to the big 3-0. Some people I know (cough*Topher*cough) had a bit of a panic about turning 30, but not me. I was perfectly happy being 30. Having been lucky enough to get to know lots of women in their 30s and 40s who were so much more sure of themselves, I couldn’t see getting older as a bad thing. And just to get a bit morbid on you, not all people are lucky to reach milestone ages such as this one. So count your blessings.
As I said before, when I was younger I thought I’d have it all together by now. But during my late twenties, I finally realised that there isn’t a deadline on it. It’s a gradual process that you work on using your own timeline. It always seems like everyone’s doing a better job of adulting then you are but when you scratch beneath the surface, everyone has their problems. Even people who have kids still don’t feel like they’re adult enough. So stop comparing yourself.
Eventually I’ll get my shit together but know I know that I don’t have to be 30 to do it. So here’s to enjoying this decade and whatever comes with it.
So I turned the grand old age of 30 yesterday. I never really thought too much about how I would feel when I got to my thirties – apart from sheer terror when I was in my teens and mild amusement in my twenties. I definitely thought I would feel a hell of a lot more grown up then I feel. Though I am getting there. One of the things I’ve learned is that everyone else feels the same. No one feels like a grown up. So I’m just going to go with it.
I’m happily married to a lovely man, I just started a great job, I have a house, nice car and cats, as well as family and close friends. I consider myself lucky. I consider myself happy and I consider myself content. For the first time I feel content.
So as well as having a lovely time in my real life, I figured I needed to mark this occasion on my blog in true blogger style.
So here’s 30 things I learned in 30 years. It’s a mix of funny and serious but it’s all true. Enjoy.
- Everyone is stumbling along in their own way – no one completely has their shit together.
- Don’t cut your own fringe…especially when you’re sad.
- I like things better when they are planned. That’s just me.
- You do you – everyone is focusing on what they’re doing too much to care about what you do.
- Just buy the expensive wok so you don’t have to keep buying cheap ones when they immediately get scratched.
- Never follow a man in a kilt – running joke between Topher and I when we were on our way to a Disney Halloween party and we got on the wrong monorail because we assumed the man in a kilt in front of us was dressed up for Halloween. He wasn’t.
- You don’t need to be 10 stone to be happy. Find your own happy weight and screw statistics.
- Heels are not for me no matter how many pairs of “training heels I buy”.
- Don’t move to a new town without visiting it more than once.
- Listen to your parents more – you don’t know shit.
- 2 and a half hour commutes are bad for your health.
- You should really remove your makeup after a night out. I’m talking to you nineteen year old me.
- Double check bus times on the way to the airport.
- Don’t take a bus to the airport. Especially in a foreign country. Especially when you’re running late. Let me tell you about the time Topher and I missed a flight home…
- Pets make a home feel like home
- Google knows all. All my adult stuff I know is because of Google.
- Car tyres are expensive. Especially when you keep managing to drive over nails.
- Brown tape fixes a lot of things around the home.
- Accept help when it’s offered. Things will be so much easier if you do.
- You can’t fit an IKEA flat pack king size bed inside a Renault Clio – Optimism can only take you so far.
- Don’t go outside in Edinburgh in November only wearing a toga.
- Vegetables are actually pretty tasty when you cook them right
- You’re never too old to love Disney
- It’s so satisfying to have your own tool kit and be able to fix things yourself – with the odd Facetime call to your dad here and there.
- I can drive abroad. I can drive a 4×4. I can drive a mini bus and I can even drive the biggest van you can drive on a regular licence.
- Not everyone is going to like what you like. And that’s kind of the point isn’t it?
- The people who stick around through the good and bad are the best kind of people.
- If you have a polystyrene fight with a person with curly hair, you will win.
- Never do the food shop when you’re hungry.
- When I’m handed a kitten, I can’t say no to taking it home. – I actually was going to get 2 of Pickles’ siblings but the woman had already given them away when I arrived. He was the last one left and I was determined to have two kittens. But as soon as he was handed to me I took him home vowing to find him a friend from another litter.
Cheers to being 30!
If you had to make one of these lists, what would be on yours?