How I feel about turning 30

How I feel about turning 30

So it’s been just over two months since I turned 30 and how do I feel? No different. 30 always seemed such a stand out age when I was younger. Like you’re supposed to have all your shit together by then? Apparently not. And that’s ok.

It kinda reminds me of when people ask you “how’s married life?” and all you can say is, “no different.” Of course I guess that was more of a question back when people didn’t live together before they got married. I could still even ask that to my cousins since the culture is different with them. As for me and Topher, it’s just the same only we have some extra jewellery.

Though I do like the fact that we’re married. We’re even more of a team and we share the same name. And no one else in the world has it. Though please UPS guy at work, please just let me give my first name and not have to spell out my entire double barrelled surname for you? Wouldn’t have it any other way though.

Anyway, back to the big 3-0. Some people I know (cough*Topher*cough) had a bit of a panic about turning 30, but not me. I was perfectly happy being 30. Having been lucky enough to get to know lots of women in their 30s and 40s who were so much more sure of themselves, I couldn’t see getting older as a bad thing. And just to get a bit morbid on you, not all people are lucky to reach milestone ages such as this one. So count your blessings.

As I said before, when I was younger I thought I’d have it all together by now. But during my late twenties, I finally realised that there isn’t a deadline on it. It’s a gradual process that you work on using your own timeline. It always seems like everyone’s doing a better job of adulting then you are but when you scratch beneath the surface, everyone has their problems. Even people who have kids still don’t feel like they’re adult enough. So stop comparing yourself.

Eventually I’ll get my shit together but know I know that I don’t have to be 30 to do it. So here’s to enjoying this decade and whatever comes with it.

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30 things I learned in 30 years

So I turned the grand old age of 30 yesterday. I never really thought too much about how I would feel when I got to my thirties – apart from sheer terror when I was in my teens and mild amusement in my twenties. I definitely thought I would feel a hell of a lot more grown up then I feel. Though I am getting there. One of the things I’ve learned is that everyone else feels the same. No one feels like a grown up. So I’m just going to go with it.

I’m happily married to a lovely man, I just started a great job, I have a house, nice car and cats, as well as family and close friends. I consider myself lucky. I consider myself happy and I consider myself content. For the first time I feel content.

So as well as having a lovely time in my real life, I figured I needed to mark this occasion on my blog in true blogger style.

So here’s 30 things I learned in 30 years. It’s a mix of funny and serious but it’s all true. Enjoy.

  1. Everyone is stumbling along in their own way – no one completely has their shit together.
  2. Don’t cut your own fringe…especially when you’re sad.
  3. I like things better when they are planned. That’s just me.
  4. You do you – everyone is focusing on what they’re doing too much to care about what you do.
  5. Just buy the expensive wok so you don’t have to keep buying cheap ones when they immediately get scratched.
  6. Never follow a man in a kilt – running joke between Topher and I when we were on our way to a Disney Halloween party and we got on the wrong monorail because we assumed the man in a kilt in front of us was dressed up for Halloween. He wasn’t.
  7. You don’t need to be 10 stone to be happy. Find your own happy weight and screw statistics.
  8.  Heels are not for me no matter how many pairs of “training heels I buy”.
  9. Don’t move to a new town without visiting it more than once.
  10. Listen to your parents more – you don’t know shit.
  11. 2 and a half hour commutes are bad for your health.
  12. You should really remove your makeup after a night out. I’m talking to you nineteen year old me.
  13. Double check bus times on the way to the airport.
  14. Don’t take a bus to the airport. Especially in a foreign country. Especially when you’re running late. Let me tell you about the time Topher and I missed a flight home…
  15. Pets make a home feel like home
  16. Google knows all. All my adult stuff I know is because of Google.
  17. Car tyres are expensive. Especially when you keep managing to drive over nails.
  18. Brown tape fixes a lot of things around the home.
  19. Accept help when it’s offered. Things will be so much easier if you do.
  20. You can’t fit an IKEA flat pack king size bed inside a Renault Clio – Optimism can only take you so far.
  21. Don’t go outside in Edinburgh in November only wearing a toga.
  22. Vegetables are actually pretty tasty when you cook them right
  23. You’re never too old to love Disney
  24. It’s so satisfying to have your own tool kit and be able to fix things yourself – with the odd Facetime call to your dad here and there.
  25. I can drive abroad. I can drive a 4×4. I can drive a mini bus and I can even drive the biggest van you can drive on a regular licence.
  26. Not everyone is going to like what you like. And that’s kind of the point isn’t it?
  27. The people who stick around through the good and bad are the best kind of people.
  28. If you have a polystyrene fight with a person with curly hair, you will win.
  29. Never do the food shop when you’re hungry.
  30. When I’m handed a kitten, I can’t say no to taking it home. – I actually was going to get 2 of Pickles’ siblings but the woman had already given them away when I arrived. He was the last one left and I was determined to have two kittens. But as soon as he was handed to me I took him home vowing to find him a friend from another litter.

Cheers to being 30!

30 things - Diane & Topher

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My Week #56 – This calls for a nap

*Blogtacular *My Blogtacular notebook & cheeky purchase

*Elvis Waffles at The Breakfast Club in London *V&A Museum

 

I’m so tired. 

So tired that I wrote a post earlier this week (Ideal home show) and didn’t even realise that I hadn’t published it until this morning. Doh! And if you think I’m tired – you should look at Topher. With his two jobs in full swing, he is barely at home and when he is, he’s not a functioning human being. Luckily it looks like he may have a role at the school in September now so he has handed in his notice at his second job. Yay! And even better, he’ll have the whole summer off. Oh the cleaning I’m going to get that man to do (evil laugh*).

I’ve been trying to find my feet again since getting home on Sunday evening and it has not been easy. I’ve been eating absolute rubbish and feeling the same for it. Where are my fruits and veg? As a result I put on 2 and a half pounds at Slimming World. Not surprising in the least. I can’t think of one healthy meal I had. But I’ve drawn a line under it now. I’ve filled my fridge with yummy healthy food again and I want to say goodbye to that 2 and a half pounds this coming week. Wish me luck!

Blogtacular was awesome!

There will be a full post on it next week so stay tuned for that. I have even shot a load of clips that I will be turning into a couple of videos from the weekend. Including my day out in London on the Sunday. Exciting times. I can’t believe how much I managed to pack in.

The wedding is less than 1 month away.

Yikes! I’ve been getting a lot more VA work recently so I’m just trying to juggle everything and it is exhausting. Luckily Emma came round a couple of days ago and we got a load of flowers done. And her and Claire will be coming round on Saturday too to help after we’ve visited a tailor about their bridesmaid dresses. Fingers crossed those alterations don’t cost a fortune!

Apart from the DIY’s we’ve been hammering out other details too and have suddenly remembered we’re going to Jordan in less than 3 weeks so I’ve now got my outfit purchased for my cousin’s wedding. And we have another wedding (our last English one) to go to next weekend. So I’m going to enjoy this weekend as it’s my last “free” one before the wedding.

I’m turning 29 in 10 days

With all that’s been going on, I’ve barely given any thought to my birthday. Something tells me it’s going to be a quiet one. I’m going to my final dress fitting with my parents and they’re taking me to lunch. Then I think Topher was planning on taking me to dinner at some point depending on when he is free.

This week has been all about playing catch up so please excuse me while I continue to run around like a headless chicken!

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My Week #46 – More Weddings and More Cake

*The last wedding for a couple of months *Lobster mac and cheese at Cosy Club

*Topher’s mum’s 50th birthday cake *My spare tyre

Aaaaand breathe.

That’s the last busy week for a little while now. You know it’s been busy when the weekend is over and you don’t feel like you had one. Weekends are for sleeping! We had a good time though. Saturday we went to a vow renewal for some of Topher’s step family followed by a reception. And somehow we ended up in town meeting friends for food and drinks at Cosy Club. A long day indeed!

This was immediately followed by the Sunday where we were going out for a meal for Topher’s mum’s 50th birthday. We had ordered a surprise rainbow cake from Hey Little Cupcake and planned on picking it up on the way to her house before dinner.

Unfortunately when I started driving down the road the car felt really wobbly so I pulled over, got out and found a flat tyre. Luckily we were about 30 seconds down the road so I just nipped the car back on the drive.

Ok, plan B. We’ll call a taxi to get us into town. All our local companies were busy. So we walked 10 minutes to a bus route that would get us into town (even though we live in the city, our train station doesn’t get trains on Sundays!). Planning on getting the free metro bus to Spinningfields, we arrived in town. Of course we had just missed one so we walked across town instead. Luckily there were no hitches picking up the cake so we hailed a black cab and got to his mum’s in Salford. Phew.

The rest of the evening went great though. Food at Mowgli, a quick drink in the pub then back to her’s for coffee and cake. I’m so pleased with how awesome the cake was and Tina loved it. So all was well!

The rest of the week was a blur.

It was a combo of Topher starting his 2nd job, me working and sorting out grown up stuff like car insurance and my tyre. Which by the way, I changed to the spare myself! Topher helped too. One downside to me losing weight – when I stood on the tool to get the nuts on the tyre tightened, they went nowhere! Pretty funny, so Topher had to step in there.

In other news, apparently Pickles doesn’t give a damn about sticking his tail in a bowl of water. Not surprising after this.

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My Week #31 – Food, gifts and birthdays

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*Topher’s work Christmas do * Pickles being a little person

*Meal at Gino D’Acampo *Got some new festive wrapping paper

*Bullet journal *Topher’s birthday meal

*Topher’s birthday cake *Luna and her box

 

9 days to go! As of about an hour ago I finished my Christmas (and multiple birthday) shopping. Phew! So there’s been a lot going on in the last couple of weeks. At Slimming World I put on 3 and a half pounds in one week then promptly lost it the next week. It’s a funny time of year where there’s all of the food around. I’m being good but treats are not being denied.

My parent’s came to visit and we went to Gino D’Acampo’s restaurant in the Corn Exchange in Manchester. I had the seafood spaghetti and it was delicious. Topher and I also split a chocolate fondant cake which was pure heaven. Another meal out was for Topher’s birthday meal. We went to Red’s True Barbecue which I can only describe in one word as “meat”. Definitely not a vegetarian friendly place! It was really nice but I didn’t enjoy it as much as I thought I would. It was pretty much my fault due to my eyes being forever bigger than my stomach. Oh well! Lesson learned yet again. The rest of his birthday was pretty chilled. He just wanted to play his new Final Fantasy game so I just let him get on with it. And of course there was cake.

We went to Topher’s work Christmas do which was interesting to say the least. Let’s put it this way, it was in a snooker hall which is based in the car park of his work. Enough said! I’ve actually got a couple of Christmas do’s myself which I totally wasn’t expecting being freelance. But the Freelance Friday co-working meetup I go to most weeks is having both a meal next week and drinks tonight. Score! I can’t say enough how happy I am that I found this group back in April. It’s been the key form of support I’ve had this year where I’ve met amazing people and I now have an awesome career path.

How was your fortnight?

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