Remembering my “Why”

Remembering my “Why”

Flashback to December 2011. I was 23, in one of the most mind numbingly boring jobs and desperate for a creative outlet. I wanted somewhere to share my love of fashion, art and pretty things. So Nomad Seeks Home was born.

Over the years I loved having a place I could turn to write about the things I cared about and have some fun. Plus it’s almost 8 years later and I have a diary of my twenties I can look back on which is so cool.

So back to the present day. I’m 31 and you may or may not have noticed that I’ve been finding it difficult to blog regularly over the last year or two. I won’t lie, it’s been a real struggle. There have been many times where I’ve considered packing in the whole blog all together.

The reason behind it all is my mental health. When I was freelance I struggled a lot with it and it definitely effected my blog in the end. I found myself being caught in the comparison trap and even though this wasn’t my main source of income, I felt the pressure.

Eventually I felt trapped in the whole cycle of “what’s the point of creating if no one cares or comments or likes etc.” So I didn’t create anything.

Even after I quit the self employed life and took the pressure off, I still found myself pushing my laptop away and even withdrawing from social media. I think I needed the break. But it’s been a long time and I miss it.

Recently I had a bit of a breakthrough and it all started when I walked into Zara. Weird I know but the collection they had in there a few weeks ago was so bright and colourful it made me excited. I haven’t thought about fashion in years – at least not the way I used to.

I miss having that feeling and blogging gave me that feeling. It’s the same feeling I got when I bought myself a new planner. I really want to blog about it too. I want to share – even if no one is listening. Just because I love it.

So to get my love of blogging back, all I need to do is remember my why. Why did I start? I wanted to have somewhere to gush about all the things I loved and had no one to talk about it to.

I’m smiling as I type this because I can literally feel my blog love reigniting. I know because of my mental health there will be a lot of bad days but it’s all about grabbing the good and making the most of it. I always feel better when I’ve done something. So that’s what I’m going to do.

Do something.

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I Can’t Do All Of The Things

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Lesson learned.

I can’t do all of the things. Something has got to give. I can’t simultaneously have two blogs, a business to promote, VA work to do, house decorating, cooking, cleaning, an entire wedding to plan including DIY’s and just general taking care of myself. Nope, it’s not happening.

It’s unsurprising that I was tired all the time, not eating properly and my eye wouldn’t stop twitching. So stressed. It was my own fault of course – note to self and you guys, if you’re doing wedding DIY’s get them done as early as possible.

And you may ask where was Topher in all this? He was just as stressed as I was and couldn’t help me since he was juggling two jobs.

So something had to give. In June I took the decision to stop blogging and promoting both Nomad Seeks Home and Begin.Create until after the wedding was over. Only concentrating on my freelance VA work, as well as getting some Slimming World ready meals in, I would try and do less things. Topher also handed in his notice at his second job.

Now that the wedding is over, we both feel so much better. He’s off from school for summer and I am slowly trying to get back into a routine (which includes blogging of course!). I can’t imagine what would have happened if I had tried to keep going and doing it all.

That is my advice to you. Please don’t try to do all of the things. Let some stuff slide, ask for help and just take care of yourself.

So what have I been up to since I last posted?

  • We were guests at two more weddings, one of them being in Jordan. That certainly was by far my shortest trip there ever! 3 full days…

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  • I turned 29. In all the wedding rush, I almost forgot about my birthday! The last one of my twenties. I spent the day doing my final dress fitting and having afternoon tea with my parents followed by girly films with Topher. He had never seen Mean Girls and that needed to be fixed!

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I can't do all of the things - afternoon tea

  • I had my hen party. It was such a good day. Crystal Maze in Manchester, followed by afternoon tea and finally a sleepover at mine with games and amazing cocktails.

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I can't do all of the things - cocktails

  • We got married! I’ll do a full post on this soon. In answer to the inevitable question, “so how’s married life?” I’ll answer, “exactly the same!” I mean, how could it be any different when you’ve been in a relationship for over 8 years and living in sin for almost 5 of them, right? One thing’s for sure, it’s so great to be able to say the word husband. Is it just me or does the word fiancé sound kinda pretentious?

I can't do all of the things - our wedding

Photo by our amazing photographer, Nikki Cooper

  • And for the last week I’ve just been sleeping, tidying, doing a little bit of work and chilling out before getting back to business.

So that’s it. I’m back baby!

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Blogtacular 2017

I had the best time at Blogtacular 2017. Seriously can’t believe it’s taken me so many years to go.

I decided to document the weekend in video and made a little music video that you can watch right here below. Apologies for some shakiness and spinning in places. I’m still learning!

Now please excuse me while I photobomb you with ALL OF THE PHOTOS. Actually for me, I think I was pretty chilled – I’ve been known for taking 1000 photos in a day.

I only took 150 of Blogtacular itself so I know I was way too busy having fun. That and I was also tweeting, videoing, instagraming and Instagram storying (check me out making up words) simultaneously.

So it all started on Friday at the West Elm party.

After safely making it down to London by train on first class (thank you Virgin sale a few months ago) and eating all the free snacks, I checked into my hotel. After a quick breather, I made my way over to West Elm on Tottenham Court Road.

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Lots of people! I immediately got in line for a unicorn smoothie and chicken slider, then made my way further into the store to get chatting with people.

Blogtacular 2017 - Unicorn smoothie

Blogtacular 2017 - party food

Blogtacular 2017 - west elm

Blogtacular 2017 - flamingo

Since I knew I wouldn’t be go to the video talk the next day, I attended the informal group chat with Xanthe Berkeley to gather some wisdom.

Blogtacular 2017 - party talk

I can’t believe how quickly the two hours went. It was over before I knew it and suddenly I found myself outside following a group of ladies with the promise of tacos!

Blogtacular 2017 - DF Mexico

Did you know Wahaca has a little sibling? I sure didn’t but I was happy to eat a delicious burrito at DF Mexico and chat to more people.

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Then it was back to the hotel and a good nights sleep before the main event…

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First things first. As soon as I entered the venue where Blogtacular was held and I saw the decorations all I could think of was “Why didn’t I know about this business a year ago?” The décor was all done by Pop Pop Papier and it is pretty much what I was after for my wedding! Ah well, I’ve done something similar myself (though minus the balloons as my venue won’t allow them). So pretty!

Blogtacular 2017 - decor

Blogtacular 2017 - crowd

Anyway, back to the conference. The event was kicked off by a speech from Kat Molesworth, the organiser with a guest appearance from the fire alarm! There was then a keynote by Natalie Lue before we had to go off to our selected sessions.

Blogtacular 2017 - Kat Molesworth

It was so difficult choosing which talks to go to but in the end I decided on;

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The day ended with a closing keynote from Emma Gannon. Her book has been on my amazon wishlist for a while so since there was a bookstore at the conference I decided to take the plunge and get it. And of course since the author herself was amongst us I had to get it signed!

Blogtacular 2017 - Emma Gannon

Throughout the day we were well fed, watered and the market was amazing to walk around during the breaks. So many pretties!

Blogtacular 2017 - dessert

Overall it was an amazing day.

Highlights of my day definitely included blogger bingo during the creative business masterclass session, discovering Honeywell Bakes’ amazing biscuits, generally meeting so many lovely people and giving doodle note taking a go. So fun and I can actually understand my notes now!

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The goody bag was amazing too. In particular I’m trying to figure out what I could bake that would be worthy of Baking Time Club’s awesome sprinkles. Any ideas?

Blogtacular 2017 - goodybag

I’ve come away with so much knowledge and I can’t wait to start implementing it. Though maybe after the wedding – I’m shattered!

Is it time for next year’s Blogtacular yet?

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Linkorama #5

I’m not usually a fan of Jenny Packham wedding dresses but this dress is so pretty I want to cry a little.

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Topher started a blog! Finally we are blogging couple! Bwahahaha.


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I have no idea how good this would taste but how cool does it look?

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I want this dress so bad!

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And in other news:

Carrie from Wish Wish Wish goes to Disneyland Paris for her Hen Party.

Sooo jealous!

Paula from Thirteen Thoughts shares 100 Blogging Resources

Everything from starting a blog to taking your blog to the next level. So helpful!

Sam from Stories of Sam talks about age related deadlines

This is so true and I agree 100%. We shouldn’t hold ourselves to or make ourselves feel bad for not achieving what we thought we would when we were teenagers. I thought I would be married by 26 and maybe even have kids by the time I was 30. 30 is not the be all and end all. I’m getting married at 29 and that suits me just fine, just as it would if I were 30, 40 or 50.

This Woman’s Epic Rant About Ugly Bras For Big Boobs Is So Real – Buzzfeed

Amen is all I have to say.

What have you been reading online recently?

 

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Link-o-rama #1

I always enjoy reading these kind of roundup from the blogosphere and internet posts so I decided to do one of my own. Here’s what I’ve been reading the last couple of weeks:

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I think Elsie’s floor would be the stuff of nightmares for Topher but I personally love it!

Fall For…Office Inspirations

Can you tell I’m on an interior kick at the moment? Must be all the house hunting. I’m loving Fran’s inspiration for her new office.
Halloween costumes by Treasures & Travels 1414131034764How awesome are these costumes? Ice cream and cotton candy. I need to do this one year!

Inspirational Disney quotes

Need some motivation? Look no further. It’s no secret I’m on a Disney buzz due to the fact that I’m heading off to “The World” next week.

How to calm anxiety

I’ve been reading up a lot about anxiety recently due to people in my life who are suffering and I want to be as supportive as I can.
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I’ll be trying a couple of these.

How to write a blog business plan from By Regina BlogBusinessPlan-Sections2

For those who want to turn their blog into a business, Regina knows her stuff!

Pumpkin Spice Cake by Divas Can Cookpumpkin-spice-cake-recipe-2

Autumn time. Pumpkin everything!

Have a great weekend!

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