2018 Slightly Sweaty Goals – How did I do?

2018 goals

So you may or may not remember my Slightly Sweary Goals of 2018. Here’s an update on how I did:

Fuck the Target Weight – Get to Happy Weight

Nope. Not even a little bit. I actually put on weight. I got off a bit of it before the end of the year but it’s safe to say that this one was a complete fail…

Earn some fecking money

Yes. I definitely did this. I ended up deciding in April that I had had it with self employment and by the end of May I had a job. A nice job with nice people and one where I earn a decent wage. It’s lovely and I feel better now.

Stop farting around and book that trip to Japan

Done and done – we’re going in April! The earning some fecking money definitely helped with this one! I’m ridiculously excited for this one.

Get rid of crap…like seriously you have way too much shit

I got rid of a load of stuff. Did car boots, gave to charity and threw a bunch of stuff out. Feeling a hell of a lot lighter. And we can actually put suitcases in the airing cupboard now. But there is still a way to go! It’s a process.

Stop feeling so bloody inadequate – you are enough

This is also a work in process. I took a big nosedive this year but by the end I felt like I was coming out the other side. We’ll get there.

If you want to see my goals for 2019, check them out here.

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19 for 2019

Happy new year! Instead of the usual resolutions, I’ve decided to do #19for2019 instead. It’s pretty much the same kind of thing but more of a list of things to do. 19 things to be precise. I want to tick off as many as possible. The cool thing about this list is you can put anything on it big or small.

#19for2019 comes from Gretchen Rubin’s podcast “Happier” and I remember listening to last years 18 for 2018 lists from her and all the listeners and wanted to take part. However it wasn’t on the cards for me – I definitely wasn’t in the right frame of mind in 2018.

I’m all for it this year though, so check out my list for #19for2019:

  1. Go trampolining with mum
  2. Get to target at Slimming World (the happy weight not the super skinny one)
  3. Finish Florida 2015 scrapbook. Yes you read that right and no I haven’t finished it yet!
  4. Make and finish wedding & honeymoon scrapbook
  5. Finish Tangled jigsaw
  6. Visit York
  7. Make 5 recipes from Mowgli cook book I got for my birthday this year
  8. Get a denim jacket and sew my patch collection onto it
  9. Vlog Japan – Currently I just do musical roundups of trips. I partly attempted to vlog our honeymoon but kept chickening out. This time I want to go for it.
  10. Put up a towel rail and fix the towel hook in our ensuite. A niggly job that I’ve been putting off!
  11. See something at the theatre
  12. Archive and organise my mountain of paperwork
  13. Scrapbook and organise the giant box of sentimental bits and bobs I’ve accumulated over the years.
  14. Take the tape off the walls, polyfill the holes and touch up the paint in the living room. I can finally call the room finished when I’ve done that!
  15. Do a 30 day yoga challenge. Long time readers will know my back/arm/repetitive strain issues so I want to see if yoga will help at all. I’m not doing the gym any more so need to do some kind of activity
  16. Finally do indoor skydiving – this has been on my list for years
  17. Get a savings app to track my spending better
  18. Rejig blog layout and transfer photos to new storage platform. I’m currently with Flickr and with all the new changes, I have just over a month to get all my 7 years of photos off there. A huge job!
  19. Open a new savings account and actually have something in there at the end of the year.

Have you made any resolutions this year?

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2018 Goals – Slightly Sweary Goals

Happy New Year!

I hope you all had a great night whether it was partying until dawn or curling up on the sofa in some pjs and ringing in the new year with TV and lots of snacks. Topher and I went to a flat party and had a great time.

So I figure I may as well get my 2018 goals set in stone on here so I can start trying to achieve them. I understand that everyone isn’t a fan of goals and resolutions but I am so I’m going to talk about mine here. I’ve been in a bit of a funk the last few months and I need to get my shit together, so I came up with a list of sweary goals to kick me into gear. Whatever works for you, right?

2018 Goals

Fuck the Target Weight – Get to Happy Weight

Since I’ve been doing Slimming World on and off since 2013, I’ve always had a target in my head. 10 stone. It’s how much I weighed when I left for Uni back in 2006 (yowza!) and it’s a healthy weight for my height. Twice I’ve gotten to 11 stone but no further. I’ve never seen a 10 on the scales.

Both times I’ve been super happy with my body at that 11 stone mark but I still wanted to get to my target weight as it’s something I thought I wanted. After getting to my happy weight twice and retreating back up another stone, I finally realise that my happy weight is where I want to be.

I’ve put on a lot of weight in the last couple of months and I’m finding myself feeling as bad as I did when I was at my heaviest. My diet is shit, I’m craving fruit and veg and I’m getting out of breath going up the stairs again. I want 2018 to be the year that I get myself back to my happy weight and stay there. Fuck the target weight – I don’t need it or want it anymore.

So what’s my plan? I don’t think I’m rejoining Slimming World, at least not for the first part of the year – I’m skint and need to save money for other things. I’d like to get myself back at the gym again because that made me feel good. And I’ve already filled the fridge with stuff that isn’t fried so I plan on concentrating on making healthy snacks as that’s my problem area.

Fingers crossed I get there because I’m sick of feeling like shit.

 

Earn some fecking money

As I wrote in my guilt post, I didn’t push myself at all in 2017 when it came to work. I was playing the comparison game and putting way too much pressure on myself. Therefore I ended up struggling a lot with money – especially in the last few months of the year. I thought that the only way to make money was through Begin.Create and when I didn’t, I was so horrible to myself and didn’t go out and get VA clients as a result.

So I’m going to be easier on myself in 2018 and just say earn some fecking money. I don’t care how but just find a way. Get some more VA clients, figure out what I want to do with Begin.Create, do matched better, affiliate marketing and odd jobs wherever I can find them.

I might even consider getting a part time job to take the pressure off. It’s hard to be creative when you’re worrying about bills that need to be paid. I’m going to consider my options and do my best to just get some money in the bank. Yes money doesn’t buy happiness but let’s face it, it does when you don’t have enough to pay the bills, right?

 

Stop farting around and book that trip to Japan

I want to go to Japan in 2019. It would be a dream for me. So this goal kinda depends on the previous on to get off the ground. The easiest way would definitely be to get a part time job. I’m not jumping into just anything though. I know how I react in different work environments and I don’t want to sacrifice happiness when that’s what I’ve been working towards since I went freelance.

So yeah, the trip will get booked if I can scrape together the money. Here’s hoping!

 

Get rid of crap…like seriously you have way too much shit

I’m sure this is on many people’s lists: declutter. It was on my list last year and I did get rid of a load of stuff…it’s just that there’s still so much crap in our house. I swear it’s breeding. So this is my continued task this year. Since we haven’t got a big wedding to deal with this year, I’ll be available for the majority of car boot season. I love car boots – getting rid of stuff and getting money for it. It’s so much more satisfying than eBay. But I will be ebaying a bunch of clothes too as they are worth more.

I’ve already taken out of my wardrobe any clothes that I bought to slim into and they’re in my eBay pile. I’d definitely advise that if you’re losing weight you should only buy clothes to slim into that are the next size down, not any more than that. I had bought stuff in the past that I eventually was able to fit into but this stuff I bought was for my target weight – very silly. As I said above, my target weight is no more so I definitely don’t need these clothes. What a waste of money. Fingers crossed I can get some cash for them.

 

And finally…

Stop feeling so bloody inadequate – you are enough

I’m sure people can relate when I say that I’m my own worst enemy and I’m sick of being so mean to myself. Overall I would normally describe myself as a happy person but I definitely need to be kinder to myself. I’m not sure exactly how I’m going to get to a point where I can say that I’ve achieved this as I think it’s an ongoing process but it needed to be on my list. I’m turning 30 this year and I want to go into my 30s being a happier, more confident person. So wish me luck.

 

Do you have any goals or resolutions for 2018?

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2017 Goals

Happy New Year! Hope you all had a good one. Ours was the perfect night in with friends. So it’s back to business as usual here. I’ve done a couple of updates around the blog including my profile photo and my logo. Notice anything different? I figured since I’m not really seeking a home anymore that it was appropriate to cross out the “Seeks”. Now it’s all about making the best life for myself and the people around me in our new home. 2017 goals time.

So since it’s January, it’s time for some goals for 2017 to be shared! So here they are. I’ve split them into categories this year.

 

Health

Target Weight

This is it. It’s happening. I’ve got a deadline of May 2017 to finish getting to my target. I’m 1 stone, 6 and a half pounds away.

So far since I joined Slimming World in October 2013, I’ve lost 2 stone and 1 pound overall and I’m not stopping. The reason for the specification of May is that this is when I’ll be having my first wedding dress fitting.

I don’t want to be fretting about fitting into a dress before our wedding so I figure that target is a good place to be so I can just focus on staying there until July.

Of course when we go on our honeymoon in September all hell is going to break loose when it comes to food but I’m happy to put on weight during that time and just sort it out when we get back. You’ve got to enjoy yourself.

So in order to get to my target I need to lose at least 1 pound a week, which is super doable and I’m going to do that by going to Slimming World every week no matter what. I also want to keep trying new recipes because I love it and it motivates me to keep to the Slimming World plan. So let’s do it!

 

Be more active

Nice and vague right? So as I mentioned, Topher and I got FitBits* for Christmas. I want to get more walking into my life and having the fitbit has been really helpful so far. I want to get as many steps in as possible.

So I’m going to set a target. We’re recommended to get 10,000 steps in per day but with me working from home I find it really hard, so I set my original target to 8,000 per day. This is still difficult on a daily basis but more doable.

I’ve noticed so far that when I’m home all day I seem to be hovering around the 5,000 step mark when I push myself and walk to the shop or something so this is going to be my mini target. Considering that I used to do barely 1000 steps a day at some points last year (I had an app on my phone), this is a big improvement already.

So doing the maths, 5,000 steps a day for all of 2017 is 1,825,000 steps. Almost 2 million! So that’s my target. By December 31st 2017 I want to have walked 1,825,000 steps. I’m going to track this and we’ll see how it goes!

 

Environment

De-clutter & Organise

It is getting done this year. I’m getting rid of the crap and keeping all the good stuff. I want everything in our home to be useful, fun or beautiful. And everything must have a place.

For now I’ll be spending a lot of time on eBay and then when car boot season kicks in I’ll be out there! Not only do I want to get rid of stuff but I also want to make a bit of profit to put towards Topher and I’s honeymoon.

In terms of organising I want to go through paperwork and get rid or archive it into a box for the attic. The same goes for personal paperwork and old diaries etc. It’s stuff I want to keep but it just needs to take up less space!

 

Decorate

As much as I would love to decorate the entire house, there’s not enough time and not enough money. So my priorities this year are my office, continuing on with my gallery wall on the landing and planning out the living room makeover.

We want to get a new sofa for the living room so that’s going to get done in the Boxing Day sales so we’ll also be saving for that throughout the year. I’m hoping to paint in either November or December and that will include getting rid of the wallpaper I hate. Three cheers to that!

 

Nomad Seeks Home 

I usually have ambitious plans for this blog every year but this year is a bit different. I do want to get my head around monetizing with affiliates etc but I just need to push myself to keep on top of it too.

But apart from that I just want to feel like myself and actually enjoy having this space. That’s a big reason why I went down to just 3 posts a week instead of 4. I found I was just posting for the sake of it and I wasn’t writing about my life anymore. So that’s also why I brought back the “my week posts” in the second half of last year too.

I want to stop giving a damn about what other people are achieving and just focus on myself. But at the same time I want to get more involved in the community and go to more events. But only ones that excite me. There was one point last year where I was signing up for events that I wasn’t totally up for so I ended up missing a couple of them because I made myself anxious about them. I haven’t got time for that kind of crap in 2017 so I want to attend more events that I’m excited to go to.

 

Begin.Create

Now this is a leap of faith. The website is up and my services page has launched now so I’m hoping it all works out. My main objective is to get enough clients so that I can match my previous income (practically minimum wage). This is going to take a lot of hard work and hustling but I’m ready.

I want to help people one on one, I want to launch an e-course, I want to have a talk at a conference or workshop. And it would be a dream come true if I could even be a guest on a podcast. These are big dreams but I’ve got my to do list and I’m going to do the work. Here’s to jumping off the cliff!

 

Personal

Make a project life scrapbook for the year

This is something I’ve wanted to do for a while now and it’s something I’d love to do every year. I miss having physical photo albums and this would be a great creative outlet that celebrates the every day.

The biggest hurdle is getting my photos printed out in the first place. I have all the other supplies at my fingertips. Wish me luck.

 

Wear the damn skirt

I bought this awesome skirt a year and half ago. And I haven’t worn it once. Partly because I don’t think I have anything to wear with it and partly because it’s a pretty dramatic piece of clothing.

This shit has to stop. I’m picking out an outfit and I’m wearing the damn skirt.

 

Take care of myself and ask for help once in awhile

My parents say when I was a toddler that one of my favourite phrases was “do it myself”. Well it’s about 26 years later and nothing has changed. I like to do everything myself and it is so tiring! And it’s my own fault.

It got so bad this year that I wrapped my own Christmas presents from Topher. Yes you read that right. Topher isn’t the best gift wrapper in the world but that’s a poor fucking excuse to not let him wrap his presents to me. I need to let other people help me and not do everything myself. I definitely need to remember this when it comes to doing DIY’s for the wedding!

 

Save money for the honeymoon

For the first time in my adult life, I want to have a holiday where I’m not on a tight budget. So saving for the honeymoon is a big one for Topher and I this year. I want to get to a place where we have it all saved up by the time we go.

Instead of wedding presents, we’ve asked for contributions to our honeymoon so that would be extra money on top of what we’ve saved – taking us out of our reasonably tight budget.

I’m going to keep a track of it in my bullet journal so fingers crossed!

And those are my goals. I’m feeling really confident and can’t wait to get started. Happy New Year!

What are your 2017 goals?

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2016 Goals Recap

So I think it’s safe to say that 2016 has been a big pile of shit, no? I could go on and on about all the crap this year in terms of pop culture (most recently the death of Carrie Fisher) and politics (Brexit or Trump are battling it out for worst thing happening ever) but this post is about the goals I set myself at the beginning of the year.

As humiliating as this post is to write, it has to be done. Because it’s ok. It’s ok to fail and it’s important to let others know that you failed. I am far from perfect and people should see that. Not that you care. That’s something I learned this year – there’s no point in holding back from doing the things you want to do because of what people will think. Mostly, people are too busy worrying about themselves to be judging you on your failure. So you may as well go for it.

I got off on a bit of a tangent there, but hey what’s new? It’s probably my procrastinating mind trying to prolong not writing this next bit! So let’s get to it. At the beginning of this year I made 4 goals. And I failed them all! It’s not surprising considering that most people fail their resolutions but let me feel like a special snowflake for a minute, yeah?

Target Weight – get to it

So this didn’t happen but it’s not a bad ending to the year at all. I lost 1 stone and 6 pounds this year since March. It felt like I was crawling the entire time since I could have done it a lot faster and gotten further but I’m proud. I’m 4 and a half pounds away from the lowest weight I’ve been in a decade and I didn’t put on any weight this year. Plus, I’m 1 stone, 4 and a half pounds away from my target.

I may not have gotten to my target but at least I attended Slimming World every week and am still going in the right direction. So I may have lost the battle but I’m well on the way to winning the war!

London to Brighton Trek for British Heart Foundation – Complete it

Errr…. so that really didn’t happen. At all. I quickly realised early this year that it wasn’t going to happen. After a few practice walks in January, Topher and I decided it wasn’t a priority this year. And it’s definitely not happening next year since we’ll be getting married around that time. So it’s off the table until our 30s which I’m fine with. I will be doing more walking next year but with more of a focus on getting healthy rather than training.

Self employed business – make enough each month to live (ie. pay my contribution to expenses and food)

This was a weird one. I failed but at the same time I didn’t. Between the months of April and October, I made enough to give my contributions to our living expenses which I was so proud of, but the other months I didn’t. The first few months I was obviously building my client base so that makes sense. But the final two months of this year I failed miserably. Goodbye savings!

It was my own fault though. Client contracts ended and I didn’t replace them. I think it’s because I was in the mindset of setting up Begin.Create so I didn’t want to take on work in my old field. But of course I should have been thinking about important things, like paying for food! Luckily, Topher finally got enough hours from work to be full time so he has really taken up the slack these past couple of months and I am ridiculously grateful to him for doing that.

De-clutter house and De-clutter life

I did get rid of a load of stuff just before we bought our house in March and I have taken steps to de-clutter but man oh man do I have a lot of stuff! Plus it’s inevitable that when you buy your first house that everyone you know throws a bunch of crap at you for it. I’m not talking about things like furniture because that is definitely useful but stuff like decor items that are most of the time not to your taste and take up space. It’s sweet but unhelpful.

And the also inevitable factor of getting your first house is your parents unloading your own crap back onto you. I’ve not only carted around my own crap through my many moves but I’ve also had a room full of crap waiting for me at my parents like a ticking time bomb. And that bomb exploded all through this summer. Yes mum, that’s you. The bright side of it is that my mum has a dressing room now. The downside is that I’m practically drowning in my office. But it’s my crap so it’s my problem!

So though I did de-clutter a bit, there is so much more that I need to do. That is a definite 2016 goal failure! Unsurprisingly, this is being moved to a goal for next year because this shit needs to get sorted. I doubt I’ll ever be a minimalist but I just want to get to a place where everything has a home.

Overall..

I may have “failed” my goals, I have come in leaps and bounds this year and I’m proud of what I accomplished in 2016. I think my problem is setting my expectations too high for myself. So let’s see if I learn anything from my goal list that I’ll be posting on the 2nd January!

How did you do with your 2016 goals?

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